19: Cary Hokama: You Don’t Need To Prove Yourself To Others

Cary Hokama is an Amazon best selling author, and peak performance coach.  He helps high performers master their craft and rise to the challenge so that they can get their greatest work into the world.

No matter what hardships you’ve faced or what circumstances have held you back, Cary wants you to know that you have a purpose, you have meaning.  He is a living testament that you can take your biggest disadvantages and turn them into your greatest advantages.

Favorite Success Quote

Everyone dies, but how many of us truly live.  

The average person dies at the age of 25, and gets buried at the age of 65.  

Key Points

1. Decide To Identify and Redefine Your Story

Be decisive and intentional in assessing your thoughts.  Do not hold onto a negative narrative.  You don’t have to carry on your life wearing  a mask.  Don’t let others tell your life to you, tell your own story.  For example, do not base your life on a negative circumstance that occurred in your past.  You are NOT that story.

2. Take Full Responsibility 

Master your character.  Be intentional in your personal growth.  Set appointments with yourself and prioritize it. 

3. Be Willing To Work Through The Bumps in The Road

Being a business owner has many bumps.  Be willing to press through the rough stages.  For example, choosing yourself to be your own boss and build a life you want is not easy.  It very well may alienate you from many of your old friends.  Be aware of who is surrounding you, but more importantly understand that any loneliness is only temporary as long as you stay proactive.  Be ready for that when you first start out.  You must put in the work in order to find the people you are looking for. 

Heart Healthy Hustle Round

Heart: What activity do you use to care for and strengthen your internal character?

Rest.  Proper rest IS strategy.  Proper rest is essential to optimal performance in every area of your life.  

Health: How do you maintain your physical health and avoid burn out?

Training five days per week, and train jujitsu 3 times per week.  Drink a green smoothie with low amounts of fruit.  You might include: banana, spinach, ginger, chia seeds, lemon, and water.

Hustle: What’s your main motivation for doing what you do?  

Freedom to decide who what when where why on your terms, and to help others do the same.

If You Could Go Back In Time, What Would You Tell Your Younger Self and Why?

“Immediately I’d run to him, and put my arms around that guy.  And say, “bro, everything’s going to be alright man.  This is what I want you to do: I want you to focus on a few things, not the many, and go deep on them.  And wherever you go, wherever you are brother, act first class.  Act first class and don’t put anyone on a pedestal.”

Influential Books

How to Win Friends and Influence People  by Dale Carnegie

The Magic of Thinking Big  by David Schwartz

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F  by Mark Manson

More on Carry

Cary’s Website: www.caryhokama.com

Cary’s Podcast: www.caryhokama.com/blog/ 

Cary’s Book: Own Your Self

Cary wants to hear from YOU: cary@caryhokama.com

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